Monday, May 29, 2006
A Slice of Life...
Have you ever felt that you are being misinterpreted? When you say something with an utmost innocent intent, yet the receiver fails to see that intent but interprets it as somewhat offensive?
I feel that we as humans are sometimes too quick to judge the context of a statement without really processing it first. And sometimes, that immediate initial reaction might be too hasty. So hasty that before you know it, a sullen silence falls in the conversation and everything just stops?
Was listening to 'A Slice of Life' on my way to work this morning and something rang true:
There is more than one way to look at what someone means when he/she says something. What's important is that you attune yourselves to what your Loved One means when he/she speaks. A smirk can be seen as intimate, yet it can be seen as condescending. Therefore, what must be done is to observe what your other half normally means when he/she says certain things, which frees you from unnecessary quarrels because of misinterpretations.
However, that is not to say that you can say anything you want just because you expect your other half to attune him/herself to you. You too, must be sensitive about the what you say and how you say it, and most importantly, how your other half perceives it usually.
In short, both parties have to be attuned to one another. This seems to be like a very idiot type of advice, but it may turn out to be a case of 'easier being said than done'. Many couples today spend too much time looking but not too much time listening. What do I mean by this? Basically, we spend too much time idealising about the present yet we do not spend enough time talking and actually empathising with one another. Make no mistake about it and let me be candid before anyone of you have any preconcieved notions: YES! YOU STILL HAVE TO EMPATHISE WHEN YOU ARE A COUPLE! And it continues as long as you are a couple. Empathising is the key to understanding the feelings of others.
To those out there that constantly complains that they don't understand their other half: START LISTENING!
Take it easy, Keep it real...
Thursday, May 25, 2006
The Guy You Love
I know that I'm blogging alot these past few days, but that doesn't mean that I'm shaking my legs in the office! It's just that with the Net so easily available, whenever I have any random thoughts, JUST POST IT!
The Guy You Love
Ling sent this to me a few days ago. Thought that it really explains why sometimes men seem so silent and distant. But that doesn't mean that they don't love or care.
The guy who love you, can't tell you the
reason why he love you. he only knew that, in his
eyes, you are the only one.
The guy who love you, actually always make you
mad, but he do never know what stupid thing did
he done, as everything he done, is for your own
good.
The guy who love you, seldom praise you , but in
his heart, you are the best, only he know it.
The guy who love you, will scold or complaint if
you din't reply his message but others, because
he cares.
The guy who love you , Only drop his tears in
front of you, when you try to wipe his tears, you are
touching his heart, the heart which beat for you.
The guy who love you , will remember every word
u said , even its accidentally. and he will use the
word always at the nick of time.
The guy who love you, will not give any promise
that easily, because they don't want to break the
promise, they want you to believe him and they
want to give you the happiest and safest life ever
after.
The guy who love you, always tell you not to think
too much, because they already plan it for you, he
want to give u the best life in the future, he want
to give you a suprise, belive him that he can do it.
The guy who love you, maybe can't remember
speciall occasion like somekind of anniversary,
but , he do know that, every second he live, he's
loving you, no matter what day is today.
The guy who love you, won't said " i love you" that
easily, because everything he done for you is
showing that he love you already, but only he will
tell the word at the special situation, because he
dun wan u to misunderstand, he want u to know
that he love you.
The guy who really love you, will feel that,
sometimes, something hav to tell for only once,
because he thought that u might already
understand him, if talk so much, he will feel that
theres nothing you will cherish.
The guy who love you, will go to airport to fetch
you, he won't carry a bunch a rose and call you
darling like what you expect. but he will carry your
ludgage and ask you " why are you becoming that
thin within two days?" with his sincere heart.
The boy who love you, will listen quietly to you,
when you are mad, and when you finished, he will
said, you still got class tomorrow, sleep earlier .
with smile.
The boy who love you, don't know that whether
he should call you when you are angry, but he will
sent a message to you after few hours, if you ask
him why he call that late, he will said, when you
are angry, my explanation are all rubbish. But
when you calm down, my explanation will only
really works.
The boy who love you, always call you little girl,
but everytime he want to make a big decision, he
will first want to hear your advice.
The guy who love you, don't like little toy like teddy
bear, but he will always put the bear you gift him at
his bed.
The guy who love you, while quarelling, he will
apologize uncontrollably, althought you are the one
who's wrong, and later, he will sent a message to
you with " baby, actually you know its your fault,
you know it urself ".
The guy who love you, while really miss you, he
will want to buy a bunch of rose and wait you
stupidly under your apartment.but he never
knows , what he bought is daisy, but doesn't
matter, because in his heart, that's roses.
The guy who love you, seldom said sweet words,
but you know, his kisses already transfer his all
passion to you.
The guy who love you , if he can't always see
you, he will try to make himself busy, for not to
have any time to remember you, because he
knew, if he did, he will keep on missing you until
he could do nothing.
Take it easy, Keep it real...
Movie, Moods and MM
And so I struggled to stay awake for The DaVinci Code, which seems to be the pattern for the past few movies that I watched. Maybe I'm getting old, or I haven't been getting enough shut eye for the week. It's either that or I've lost my mojo, which is a scary thought since I'm still at the tender age of... (not going to let you guys in on this one).
DVC certainly didn't live up to the pre-release hype in my opinion, although I must admit that reading the book before hand did seem to be a cause. What bothers me is the Director's (Ron Howard) decision to make it seem that there is indeed a living descendent of Christ. Compare that to the book, and you would realise that the novel never did insinuate that but rather left it to the imagination of the reader. Film vs Book... I'll pick Book...
On another note, I know that I've been moody the whole of yesterday. I'm lacking sleep, and I guess the release of exam results are getting to me. I'm sorry if any of this unintended moodiness rubbed off anyone, especially Ling.
And to entertain all those out there... MM!
Take it easy, Keep it real...
Steve Jobs: Leader of Opus Dei?
Wednesday, May 24, 2006
When you said, 'I Love You'...
I know that I'm supposed to work, but somehow without having Ling with me is kind of weird. We've been spending so much time together over the past half year or so. It brings the meaning of being a couple so much more real. Hmm... It's beginning to feel like a marriage!
In anyways, this is for you...
When you said, "I love you,"
I went over the moon.
My heart sang its glory,
The stars sang in tune.
As when with a word
God brought forth light,
So with these words
You ended my night.
So with these words
You made something new:
A bond of devotion
Between me and you.
How powerful words
To shape who we are!
We ponder in silence;
Our words cross a bar.
Your words crossed a threshold
And entered the past,
Yet they have created
A world that will last.
Take it easy, Keep it real...
Post GE 2006 Forum
Attended my first political forum yesterday. Interesting I must say. I've come to realise that there is imminent hatred (note: word used is HATRED) for the ruling party (although most would like to use the word 'regime' I would stick to this for the time being).
However, what I find objectionable is the fact that most were spewing arguments for the sake of arguing. Nothing constructive was done or discussed. Most issues raised were age old ones that includes the oppression of the media in S'pore and the seemingly everlasting political dynasty in S'pore. What is interesting is that amidst all this discussion, there was little said about the efficiency of the PAP government. It is indeed easier to tear down than to construct.
The education system in S'pore has definitely achieved its goal of producing critical thinkers, but what the system is sorely lacking is critical problem solvers. We can't just raise issues after issues. What is important is that we raise issues and SOLUTIONS, evaluate these, improve on them, and implement them. Problems without resolution will fester, and would turn out to be a time bomb just ticking away, until eventually, it explodes in our faces.
I must add here that I'm not a PAP sympathiser. But I am concerned that many of the youths today are just that, opponents for the sake of opposing. And with that attitude, there would be problems, because it fosters a new generation of people and citizens that expects others to provide solutions once there is noise. Whatever happened to 'Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day; teach him how to fish and you feed him for a lifetime'?
Therefore the question would be: Do you want to be spoonfed, or do you want to be proactive? And mind you, if you are to be spoonfed, please quit your endless complaints about not having freedoms, because that is the consequence of being spoonfed.
Take it easy, Keep it real...
Monday, May 22, 2006
The Fuss Behind The Code
There has been recent furore over the opening of The DaVinci Code from the Christian camp, and I can understand why given the multiple claims by Dan Brown that his bestselling book was based on authentic documentations and facts. The Church is worried that Christians would fall prey to the baseless allegations that are being made in the book and movie, and therefore have their faith torn apart.
Hmmm... The part where Brown claims to have authentic documentations sounds pretty dubious since there have been many scholars out there that have gone all out to disprove whatever documentations that have been presented in the book. I won't go into the specifics, but for those that are interested, you can try and catch it here.
The bottomline is, both paperback and screen versions of DVC should be taken purely as that, just purely fictional with great entertainment value. We shouldn't be taking anything that is purported at face value as fact. And those that are so inclined to, should at least scour around for further facts that supports whatever claims that are being highlighted. What I'm trying to get at is that everyone should approach anything and everything with a critical mind and not be naive to the point where everything is taken for the truth.
Don't let Mona Lisa smirk at us, because I reckon that she is smirking at our inability to rationally reason what is fact and what is fiction.
Take it easy, Keep it real...
Saturday, May 20, 2006
In Christ Alone
A few entries ago, I blogged about forgiveness and how it was from within and from God can forgiveness be sought (for those interested in reading it again, please click here - the post on Mar 4).
I've realised that some out there find it difficult to reconcile within themselves with the fact that Jesus did die for us to cleanse our sins. And to think that His death on the cross is unable to take the place of our sins is clearly myopic. It is in fact an insult to the whole notion of sacrificial death, of which the greatest of all is that of Christ's.
I managed to find this song on the internet entitled In Christ Alone by Adrienne Liesching and Geoff Moore. It explains for itself how close we are (or are supposed to be) in the Lord and how He is our light and strength amongst other things...
In Christ alone, my hope is found,
He is my light, my strength, my song.
This cornerstone, this solid ground,
Firm through the fiercest drought and storm.
What heights of love, what depths of peace,
When fears are stilled, when strivings cease!
My Comforter, my all in all,
Here in the love of Christ I stand.
In Christ alone, who took on flesh,
Fullness of God in helpless babe!
This gift of love and righteousness,
Scorned by the ones He came to save.
Till on that cross as Jesus died,
The wrath of God was satisfied.
For every sin on Him was laid,
Here in the death of Christ I live.
There in the ground His body lay,
Light of the world by darkness slain.
Then bursting forth in glorious day,
Up from the grave He rose again!
And as He stands in victory,
Sin's curse has lost its grip on me.
For I am His and He is mine,
Bought with the precious blood of Christ
No guilt in life, no fear in death,
This is the power of Christ in me.
From life's first cry to final breath.
Jesus commands my destiny.
No power of hell, no scheme of man,
Can ever pluck me from His hand.
Till He returns or calls me home,
Here in the power of Christ I'll stand.
And indeed He is!
Take it easy, Keep it real...
Friendships...
Came back from Thailand on Thursday, and must I say that it was just awesome? We ate so damn much exotic food that I was just getting sick of it (for those who know me, this is vastly impossible in the normal sense). But I did!
And what really touched me is the warmth that I experienced with Aunty Phrapahiporn and Ploy and family whom we met up in the Bkk. Which brings me to question this whole thing about friendships. Friendships that have entirely no pretense, no bull, just sincerity. And I think friendships are just that.
Recently I had a bust in with someone whom I thought was a friend. When things were going rough, I was there, and I seriously thought at that time (note: seriously thought) that he had the makings of a great friend. But when push came to shove, this supposedly friend of mine couldn't stand up and be counted. Lies and even more lies followed by accusations. Do I really need that?
I think friends these day lack just that: no pretense, no bull, just sincerity. And I'm glad that I found them in Tommy and Jophia... NO BULL!
So here... Thank you both for making our trip to Thailand an enjoyable one. One that was full of laughters, full of joy, and full of love...
Take it easy, Keep it real...
Thursday, May 04, 2006
Just a personal note to my Ling...
Seeing you sleep like that, so peaceful and so serene, makes me want to write this to you...
I love to be loved in the morning
I love to be loved at night.
I love to be loved anytime
For love in the darkness is light.
I pray every day to say thank you
For all I have others do not.
I pray every day cause I'm guilty
For I don't deserve what I've got.
Your love is the best of the rest
For your mission in life is me.
Once I was selfish and cruel
But fearing your loss made me see.
God gave Eve to Adam
To smile and suffer no more.
God gave you to me
I will love you forever more.
-mbeki-
Take it easy, Keep it real...
Ramblings
To tell you the truth, I'm physically and mentally drained to the point that I'm losing my motivation to do anymore studying and just enter the exam hall with whatever I've kept in my overused brain of mine...
Hmmm... much furore have been made about James Gomez... I don't know... sometimes I feel that the opposition is just being an opposition for the sake of being one. Sometimes, we are so primed by the notion that the government doesn't give us too much political space that we embrace whatever opposition that is available to us. Just so that you guys out there know, motivated cognition is very powerful. If one is motivated to think in a certain way to serve a certain purpose, we will use all sorts of cognitive strategies to confirm our bias.
And seriously, the underlying implications of the Gomez case is that it undermines the processes of the elections and the government as a whole. It may even cast us in a bad light, reducing us back to what MM calls third world politics, and thus third world investments from overseas and third world jobs.
Take it easy, Keep it real...
Wednesday, May 03, 2006
Joga Bonita!!!!
And on another note... Technological Innovation sucked big time!
Take it easy, Keep it real..
