Sunday, February 12, 2006
Ramblings...
Spent the most of Saturday in the Library with Ling studying for Social Cognition this coming Wednesday. I must say that it was a real productive afternoon/evening. No one to disturb you and no irritating McDonald's ads blaring round the airwaves. Actually managed to get some things done.
Have you ever wondered why some actions just seem so automatic and some seem all so controlled? Like you instantaneous hostile reaction to someone that seemingly had done nothing wrong to you? Or like the time when you just seem to automatically express helpful behaviour to someone whom you probably do not like in the first place? Or the time when you had to calculated every single move that you take when trying to woo a member of the opposite sex (believe me, done that 4 months ago!)? All this have to do with the kind of 'imperfect theories' that we have of the world that we live in. Some of these 'theories' are just so readily available in our minds that we automatically (there's that word again) apply them to situations that we are in without much rational thought. There is no real explanation as to why we activate some theories more than others other than the mere availability effect, but it does raise the question: 'Are we in control of our thoughts, emotions and behaviours? Do we actually make rational decisions with pure logical thought?'
I recently snapped at my Mom for something that my Bernice did or did not do (depending on how you look at it). What caused me to snap? Is it the constant thought in my mind that she makes too many excuses that my sis makes? Or is it that my sister's irresponsibility and total lack of empathy for the people around her that got to me? Some may even call it sibling rivalry. I don't know what it is, but it definitely isn't sibling rivalry. I'm more concerned with her growing up to be a empathatic and disciplined person that my parents have brought me up to become. I underscore it again: I'M NOT JEALOUS OF MY KID SISTER! I think it boils down to the two persons being concerned over the same person over different perspectives. That's probably why my Mom and myself always get into heated arguments when we 'discuss' over the issues Bernice is facing. -Sigh- Or maybe I should just let Bernice grow up the way that she wants to. But I'm afraid that in the future, I wouldn't be able to look at her with the same eye. Help!
Bernice and myself do have happy times...
Take it easy, Keep it real...
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