Thursday, January 05, 2006
Of Friends
Have you ever had the feeling that you knew a person so well before but yet then realize that you never knew him/her in the first place? Even when growing up with them, going through thick and thin with them, and yet they tend to forget all of this when you turn to them for help? If the above description fits how you were feeling, then you would know that fair-weather friends are all over the place...
So how does one actually ensure that they find good friends, those that do not abandon them as soon as things just don't turn out right? What I've learned over the years is that one has to be honest and sincere when treating others. And then hopefully have them reciprocate in kind. All relationships compose of 2-way traffics. I give, you take; and conversely, you give, I take. Both parties got to have equal amounts of giving and taking. Only then can a relationship be established.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that we must employ some sort of relationship economics as a foundation. What I'm getting at is that one shouldn't be disadvantaged in any sort of relationship.
I remember myself having many friends. And I stood by them whenever they needed help. But when the time came for me to get some help (physical, spiritual, whatever...) none of them were to be found. Did I come out poorer? Doubt so. If anything, I came out stronger. And they became the poorer.
And I'm happy that I've found peace in the circle of friends that I have. Friends that I can call my own.
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