Monday, January 16, 2006
Being Thankful
Just read in the papers the other day that some couples go to the extent of forgoing their friends just for the sake of sustaining their relationsips. That is, they stop meeting their friends altogether and spend their entire time just with one another.
Is this the way a relationship be run? Some would argue that a relationship involves just two people anyway, so cutting out everyone else except for that two persons involved wouldn't make a difference. Some detractors however would argue that a relationship is just a core centre surrounded by many other co-centric circles, i.e. you are supported by the surrounding co-centric circles of relationships that includes friends, family, etc etc...
I for one, would like to know and interact with my other half's family and friends. I wouldn't like my significant other to just give up her circle of friends just because I'm around. In fact, I believe strongly that when you enter into a relationship, you don't just enter into one with the other, but with everything that comes with him/her (family, friends, etc etc...). That should always be the basis of any relationship. And it is a basis of respect as well. Hmmm... What do you think? Is it really a sacrifice (there's that notion again) or is it a commitment? Is it healthy, or is it not?
The hustle and bustle of school should dawn upon me soon enough. It was a terribly great holiday, and somehow, returning to school just placed everything into perspective. And it's not school itself, school as a tool (whatever that means... I'm still trying to figure out). I've learned so far to make collective decisions with Ling. The world doesn't seem to belong alone to me anymore. I'm sharing it with someone, someone special. Sometimes, we are so caught up with the many things that are happening in our lives that we tend to forget the finer things in it. A thought hit me the other day: Was I thankful that it actually rained torrents? Didn't it cool the weather down a bit? Hmmm... But I do remember being thankful everyday that someone is lying next to me every night...
On another note, I happy that Ling managed to secure her other modules. We have been praying every night that things would turn out right. It wasn't easy going since appeals after appeals were turned down. I must admit that it was difficult to keep faith, but I'm glad that we pulled through it together. I intend to relish this semester with YOU before you leave at the end of the semester.
Take it easy, Keep it real...
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